Each mother loves her child and that connection will not stop regardless if the adoption plan you consider will or will not take place. Choosing an adoption plan is an incredible sacrifice for a mother and father to make. It is important to imagine the life you want your child to have and what you can and can’t do. The decisions you make, if you know you can’t parent, is what determines the life your child will have.
Some reasons families choose an adoption plan include:
- If they are struggling and strongly feel there is no way they can provide a stable life for their child/children.
- If they are worried CPS may take away their children, or they are worried their children will grow up in foster care.
- If they are dealing with addiction or legal issues.
- If their home environment is unsafe.
- If they are dealing with mental health issues.
- If they have recurring domestic violence issues in front of their children.
Adoptive families, who we approve to adopt, are checked very thoroughly and they wait years to be able to adopt. We spend hours checking through background checks, FBI records, their medical records, employment, finances, life and medical insurance. Our adoptive families are dreaming of becoming parents and will give your child all their heart, a stable and loving home, and the best educational opportunities. They will raise them as good, honest, and independent adults who will know what an incredible sacrifice you made to give them the life you want them to have and the life they deserve.
We make sure that adoptive parents send us pictures and updates and we get them to you. It is very important to us that you sleep well and have peace in your heart that your child is doing well. It is up to you whether you want to have scheduled visits once or twice a year, pictures/ updates, or choose a closed adoption where you can call us if you want updates.
The truth is 98% of children who have good, stable, and loving homes are thankful that their biological family created this opportunity for them in life. They are thankful that you made such a selfless decision for them. Many of them want to meet their biological family when they become young adults.
Women have different options and preferences when it comes to making a decision about the type of adoption they are comfortable with.
- Open Adoption: there is a schedule of visitations once or twice a year between biological and adoptive parents.
- Semi-open: Pictures and updates, conference calls between bio and adoptive parents.
- Closed: biological mother prefers privacy. She wants to reserve her right to contact our agency and ask for updates if she wants them later.
Adoption Law in Indiana gives this choice to you. If you want to choose an adoptive plan for your child, you are not obligated to notify the biological father. If the father of the child insists that he wants to parent, as a mother, you can still make an adoption plan to secure safety and stability for the child. If you have more detailed questions about the rights of the father, please call us and we will provide information.
Multiple behavioral issues can develop and addition to medical diagnoses and the use of serious medication. Many caregivers and changes in placements create life-long attachment challenges for the child. Parents may also struggle with more difficult behaviors as the child becomes an adult.
Adoption is not for everybody but in many situations, it saves lives. Babies and young children don’t have a voice yet. It is the obligation of parents to provide the life the child deserves.
Children can be placed for adoption from newborn to school age. It is the responsibility of a parent to make sure their child is safe and has opportunities for a good and productive life.
When a woman becomes pregnant, the main responsibility of the child is on her shoulders. Everybody likes to give advice but everyone has their own dilemmas and decisions. You don’t have to involve others into the decision to choose or not to choose an adoption plan. People advise and then go on with their life. Your responsibility is in the best interest of your child and you.